Re: oscillatory and unfriendly behavior

[Pierre Divenyi <marva4!EarLab!pierre@xxxxxxxxxxx>]

Hey guys, especially Neil,

The Auditory List is a bunch of congenial individuals bound together by
their, at times passionate, interest in hearing science. Although there
has never been any stated collection of ethical standards, all
contributors to our bulletin board have instinctively followed one
dictated by mutual respect. In a sense, the argument has taken, as
it should, a back seat behind the person behind it. When the argument is
more important, its proponent usually writes a paper and sends it out to
be peer-reviewed. Our exchange of points of view is motivated not by
prevailing over one another but by broadening our, and each other's,
horizon.

This being said, I would urge you to keep your personal and snide remarks
off the bulletin board. When someone has anything personal to add (or
subtract), he/she should address it to the ONE person in question, not
to the list. By the way, Neil, have you noticed that the personal remarks
by our distinguished colleagues "Edward and Larry" that you so defensively
reacted to have never appeared on the list? Well, because those colleagues
knew the unwritten rules and addressed their negative views to you personally.
They should be applauded and you should sit down and think whether you
should not try to add their nice manners to your repertoire of savoir vivre.

To sum it up: We, or at least I, have learned from following your
contribution to the debate. So, please continue to post your opinion. On the
other hand, the way you post it will determine just how many from our circle
of friends you want to call your friends (or rather, how many among them
you want to have them call YOU their friends), after the dust settles.

Yours truly,

        Pierre

        (PDivenyi@ucdavis.edu)

PS: Sorry, I did not mean that you started it. It was Diana Deutsch with
her rather misplaced attack on Dick Warren following his interesting note
on the illusion which prompted the whole debate. By the way, Diana, don't you
think that you should apologize to Dick? Here, on the same bulletin board?